Let me begin by saying that no, the world is not perfect and pain is an inevitable part of life and there is no escaping the treacherous depths of love. Is the saying ‘It is better to have loved and lost than to have never of loved at all’ true? It depends on how you look at it. Before, my perception on the matter was why put yourself through all that pain if you knew the utopia of love and happiness will come crashing down to a horrendous and much messier end? Why not save yourself the hurt, the time, the energy and sometimes even mental capacity? It does take a lot out of you and in the end, you don’t really know what to do with yourself. I have never fallen deeply in love, and in more ways than one I am grateful for that if my defense against the previous quote is true. In past relationships, I saved myself from more pain, but doesn’t mean I didn’t feel it. ‘That’s the thing about pain…it demands to be felt.’ There really is nothing like your first love. Because it is when all the feelings are new; you feel them for the first time. You have a connection to that first person you fell in love with because it was so intense and unprecedented. No amount of time will recover your heart entirely. My theory is that while you will move on and find someone new, you can never fully give this new person your whole heart. Because a part of it, no matter how minuscule, belongs to your first love, or second or however many times it takes for you to ‘fall in love’ until you find the one you are meant to be with. They take a piece of you each time and you can never get it back.
After reading John Green’s book, The Fault in our Stars, I rethought this quote. It’s not mentioned in the book but that’s what I took out of reading his words. Spoiler Alert: Augustus at one point almost wished that Hazel Grace died in the ICU before she could find out that his (Augustus) journey on earth was coming to a quick end too. He wanted to spare her the pain because he knows that Hazel Grace thought the same about Augustus. She was a grenade and so was he. They were both doomed to face an unfortunate early encounter with death but they needed each other. Was that selfish? He wanted more time so they can fall in love, and he got his wish. Hazel Grace was left heartbroken beyond repair and for a moment I thought, this could have all been avoided. It’s Hazel’s fault for taking her walls down, letting him in, opening up to someone so beautiful and stupefying. She was well aware of her ill-starred end, but she continued on anyway. They both could have lived, though rather uneventful, but peaceful lives. The only pain to be felt would come from the cancer. Then I came to the realization, why succumb to that? I guess a life lived with pain and hurting is better than a peaceful ‘happy’ life with no risks taken. Why? Because though the feelings you are feeling are unpleasant, you’re feeling Something, with a capital S.
The Fault in our Stars was a great book and I recommend it to all who have not read it yet. John Green makes you fall in love with each character in the most beautiful way. It left me crying when the book ended; his words are so powerful. I can't wait for the movie premiere on June 6, 2014!
After reading John Green’s book, The Fault in our Stars, I rethought this quote. It’s not mentioned in the book but that’s what I took out of reading his words. Spoiler Alert: Augustus at one point almost wished that Hazel Grace died in the ICU before she could find out that his (Augustus) journey on earth was coming to a quick end too. He wanted to spare her the pain because he knows that Hazel Grace thought the same about Augustus. She was a grenade and so was he. They were both doomed to face an unfortunate early encounter with death but they needed each other. Was that selfish? He wanted more time so they can fall in love, and he got his wish. Hazel Grace was left heartbroken beyond repair and for a moment I thought, this could have all been avoided. It’s Hazel’s fault for taking her walls down, letting him in, opening up to someone so beautiful and stupefying. She was well aware of her ill-starred end, but she continued on anyway. They both could have lived, though rather uneventful, but peaceful lives. The only pain to be felt would come from the cancer. Then I came to the realization, why succumb to that? I guess a life lived with pain and hurting is better than a peaceful ‘happy’ life with no risks taken. Why? Because though the feelings you are feeling are unpleasant, you’re feeling Something, with a capital S.
The Fault in our Stars was a great book and I recommend it to all who have not read it yet. John Green makes you fall in love with each character in the most beautiful way. It left me crying when the book ended; his words are so powerful. I can't wait for the movie premiere on June 6, 2014!
