For those of us who may be guilty of continuously changing our opinions or thought process may know the root of this is essentially fear. This fear, this ambivalence, can paralyze us into a state of idleness. We fear to make a mistake so we refrain from making any moves at all. However, we all know the saying: not making a decision is a decision in itself. Fear of failure means you are already considering it an option.
Feelings are tough; processing, trying to have a clear head all while in your bones you are firm in what you feel. It’s real. There are many factors involved and some you’ll never have the answer to. Being able to remove the fear and doubt by focusing on choosing a path with an open mind for changes. Don't finalize all decisions with certainty, because life always has a funny way of working out or falling apart. See your options, guide yourself towards what feels right, and always leave room for adjustments as you walk through this journey.
Here's some suggestions when you need some help practicing strategies in decision making:
Step Back, Look At The Big Picture
Start by looking at the facts, and consider a bigger picture in a purely objective light. Research and gather as much information you'll need to make an informed decision. Ask yourself questions about how it will affect your life or the lives of those around you. Consider the short-term and long-term possible outcomes. Consider all options to be sure the choices you make are not ones made carelessly, but chosen carefully.
Seek Balanced Opinions
You are not alone in this world. There are people who care about you deeply. Don't be afraid to ask a trusted friend over coffee what their opinion is. Get an outside perspective and take it into consideration. However, don't follow that path just because your friend suggested it. You must know it within yourself as well. Asking someone else will sometimes help you get a better understanding of the situation you're in because they see it from a different light on the outside. They may see things you didn't catch, but you also feel things they may not feel. Thus why we take both into account. Include yourself in this intentional subjective journey and do not dismiss your own intuition feelings. You may want to meditate on the decision at hand, relative to your own values, or pray for spiritual guidance.
Be Honest With Yourself
You cannot make yourself feel something you do not feel, but you can make yourself do right in spite of your feelings. Also, when you are setting up the expectations you want for yourself, set a tangible goal. Reach further than you think is possible, but formulate a plan of action based on what you have gathered, learned and determined. Whether the goal requires one step or a hundred steps, establish how you are going to achieve it. You can achieve it.
Evaluate, but Look Forward
Don't dwell on the past, but it's good to check in on yourself and be reminded of your progress. Everyday while you're on this journey you don't really notice your progression. That is until you pause, and take a look back. Recognize any unanticipated consequences, but the focus on doing so should be purely for the sake of personal growth. There is a big difference between constructive self-evaluation, versus second guessing yourself along the way.
Know His Plan For You
When you walk with Him, the choices you make seem simpler. You may feel alone here trying to figure out which path you should be set on to go to, but know that His plan for you is already written out and you must simply follow. Wake up early, work hard, and be ambitious. Keep your priorities straight, your mind in the right place, and your head up. Do well, live well and dress really well. Do what you love, love what you do. It is time to start living. Your life will fall into place. No reason to be indecisive.
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