Here's how you stop searching and become an individual who watches:
Focus on the life that is right in front of you. Life isn't only about finding a romantic partner. There is so much more to the story; to your story. Love, though it may be a big part, should only be a part of your life.
Grow, refine, develop and explore the person you are and work on becoming the best version of yourself. The better you have your life together, the more you will attract the right person to your life and the easier it will be to see this person when they are in front of you.
Be curious about the people who come into your life, but don't hunt them down in desperation. You will be much more attractive if you keep yourself composed but intrigued rather than desperate and needy.
Law of Attraction
Start being the person you are looking for. Chances are, you will attract them into your life. Like-minded people usually find each other. Be the type of person you'd like to meet. Begin to live your life in such a way that people will just simply become infatuated in you, and you in them.
Talk to God
Pray about the men or women you meet. Ask for wisdom from God and then listen to it. He has a plan for you, and if you haven't met that one person yet, then the timing isn't right and one of you isn't ready. God always has perfect timing.
Practice openness, gentleness and vulnerability rather than cynicism. When the right person comes around, you will be ready to connect with them in the way good relationships require. Rather than pushing them away and protecting yourself, you are allowing this person into your life. The minute you stop trying to look for the right person and focus on becoming the right person, love will come.
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