Stand for Equality
Treat everyone equally, as if each person has some importance to you. If you have a group of friends, no individual should feel less liked, valued or wanted than anyone else. Every person deserves to be shown respected for their opinions and ideas. Don't think of anyone as 'unpopular' or 'unworthy' because everyone has their own talents within themselves.
Genuinely Be Interested
Be interested in others and what matters to them. Being listened to affirms that you're a valuable person. You may even broaden your horizons and learn something new from this person or have inspired thoughts. Conversations and discussions evoke ideas and spark actions to happen, even if they are only within yourself.
Be friendly and personable. It's easy to ignore those we see are shy, awkward and don't know what to say. Don't overlook these individuals. Usually ones with the softest voices speak the loudest.
This can be difficult if you are speaking to intentionally difficult people. But that is their issue as it has nothing to do with you. It could be possible they are covering their low self-esteem or expect to be rejected so they act in that way. The act of being a Gracious Lady is to always be kind to those around you. No matter how they treat you. If someone says something silly, or embarrasses themselves, don't either react or ignore them. Still act like a friend, but know when to distance yourself.
When you use people's names in conversation, it conveys that they are someone important and it tends to build a stronger bond. Don't say it in every sentence, but say their name when you say 'good morning' or when you ask them how they are doing. It shows that you care and it's a little more personable.
Share the Laughter
We all share inside jokes with close friends, but when you are in a group environment, share the joke and include everyone. No one likes feeling left out and it tends to create a tension within the dynamics of the room. If it's a joke you want to stay an inside joke, then don't mention it in front of others.
Don't lie and be insincere and don't over do it. If you notice something good, something that is worth the praising, let them know. It will brighten their day. I have also learned that people would rather be complimented on a talent or something they have earned rather than their looks. And if you don't have anything nice to say, you're just not thinking hard enough.
Photograph by Alec Vanderboom