You've met your high school sweetheart and you both have been together throughout high school. However, when the topic of college and your futures come up, you learn you both want to study in different fields, and possibly in different states. The relationship means so much you both want to continue to make it work, no matter the challenges. Though it may be arduous, it is possible. Here's how to make a long distance relationship work in college.
You Both Have to Want It
Your mutual desire to make it work is of the utmost importance and must be discussed with both parties fully. You both might like the idea of staying together despite the distance, but after a few months, the distance may become a big differentiating factor. Make sure you both are willing to commit.
Communicate
When distance is between you, communicating with each other is all you have. How you communicate is up to you. Whether it's texting, phone conversations, Skype sessions or better yet, snail mail! It's not only important to talk every day and share what is happening in your lives but to also share concerns or feelings you have about the relationship. Be open and communicate how you feel to each other, almost as a reminder that the relationship is worth it to keep going!
Be Patient
You probably will not be speaking to each other as often as you're used to, but with that, you will just have to be patient. There may be missed calls or unanswered text messages but the most important thing to remember is not to spend your time waiting around for a response. Go out and spend your time outside staying busy, and when you do talk that night, you will have exciting stories to share.
Trust One Another
No relationship will be successful without trust, but in a long-distance relationship, this may be the biggest concern. If you notice on their social media sites that they are receiving wall posts by others, don't get jealous. You have to realize that while you're enjoying meeting new people and experiencing the college social scene, he or she is doing the same. Don't try to suffocate your partner by being controlling. Jealously will destroy any relationship – long-distance or not.
Look to the Future
Most importantly, plan for the future and look towards that goal. Before you start college, talk about your plans and where you both might fit under both those goals. If you plan to meet again after you both graduate and look for jobs in both your fields in the same area, look forward to that and spending the rest of your lives together.
No matter what you decide, every relationship is a learning experience. If you plan on staying in a long-term and long-distance relationship, the communication and strong, burning desire to want to make it work must be there. As long as the relationship has that, you both can make it work.
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You Both Have to Want It
Your mutual desire to make it work is of the utmost importance and must be discussed with both parties fully. You both might like the idea of staying together despite the distance, but after a few months, the distance may become a big differentiating factor. Make sure you both are willing to commit.
Communicate
When distance is between you, communicating with each other is all you have. How you communicate is up to you. Whether it's texting, phone conversations, Skype sessions or better yet, snail mail! It's not only important to talk every day and share what is happening in your lives but to also share concerns or feelings you have about the relationship. Be open and communicate how you feel to each other, almost as a reminder that the relationship is worth it to keep going!
Be Patient
You probably will not be speaking to each other as often as you're used to, but with that, you will just have to be patient. There may be missed calls or unanswered text messages but the most important thing to remember is not to spend your time waiting around for a response. Go out and spend your time outside staying busy, and when you do talk that night, you will have exciting stories to share.
Trust One Another
No relationship will be successful without trust, but in a long-distance relationship, this may be the biggest concern. If you notice on their social media sites that they are receiving wall posts by others, don't get jealous. You have to realize that while you're enjoying meeting new people and experiencing the college social scene, he or she is doing the same. Don't try to suffocate your partner by being controlling. Jealously will destroy any relationship – long-distance or not.
Look to the Future
Most importantly, plan for the future and look towards that goal. Before you start college, talk about your plans and where you both might fit under both those goals. If you plan to meet again after you both graduate and look for jobs in both your fields in the same area, look forward to that and spending the rest of your lives together.
No matter what you decide, every relationship is a learning experience. If you plan on staying in a long-term and long-distance relationship, the communication and strong, burning desire to want to make it work must be there. As long as the relationship has that, you both can make it work.
Photograph from Tumblr