There is nothing quite like your first love. And your second or third or fourth loves will never compare because when you're with someone new, your first is always in your thoughts, no matter how wonderful this new person is. When you receive a text message with a second love's emotions written out on the screen, the feelings are not the same. There are two things that happen; that fiery interest is no longer in you or you are bored because you have heard all of these words before. They don't mean anything to you. These silly little words once made your entire day brighter, but you don't feel the same now, though the context hasn't changed. You heard these lovely words once, and my God you believed them with everything in your being, and as a result, you got hurt. Now hearing them, they almost sound like lies.
There is nothing quite like your first love. It's never the same after your first because now all of those beautiful feelings are jaded. You're harder to convince, you keep more to yourself, you're afraid of opening up again. But this is when we should give our second loves much, much more credit than our firsts.
Well, there really is nothing better than a second love. Because they were the ones who had to break through our walls, clean up the mess, and give us hope to believe in love again. They were the ones who showed us what love is supposed to feel like.
When you get your heart broken for the first time, you can’t imagine loving someone else again or having another love you. You worry about your ex finding love before you do, you worry about being damaged goods. And then like you didn't expect it: love happens. Someone else loves you and you can sleep well at night.
Every girl deserves a guy that can make her heart forget that it was ever broken.
Photograph by Jenny Markham