Currently, social media has been an excellent way to express ourselves. Which is amazing. I love when people express their creativity or share their positive successes online. Yet sometimes when I'm looking through my Instagram or Facebook News Feed, these urges of self expression I see don't seem to have many facets. I think all 'selfies' look exactly the same. Heaven forbid I see a twerking video. Unfollowed. How are you different if you feel the urge to film yourself looking silly, just like everybody else does? Or complain about how difficult your 20's are?
We all want to be special. We all want to feel appreciated and stand out from the crowd and get noticed. My question is: Why do we copy the behavior of the crowd, hoping to stand out? The irony seems obvious.
Fear. There is a fear to end up being judged negatively and it usually out-weighs the hope for positive judgement. And we all think that without positive judgement, there is no true appreciation. Doing something new, away from the crowd is terrifying, I will admit. But if we want to encounter appreciation for who we are and not for whom we copy, the only way to accomplish this is to conquer the fear.
People will judge you. There will be some negativity. This is only because people are scared if they see something different for the first time, even if you have impressed them. Realize this: if you truly want to be different, truly innovative, give people some time to accept it first. Once you have established a small crowd, the rest will be easy. Because as we know, people usually like to follow the crowd and they just like the next big thing because that's what the rest of the world is currently raving about. But they think they are special because they like it too. Go figure.
This way of thinking, being truly different, includes scaring people. It includes uncensoring what society doesn't appreciate seeing in the first moment. I don't even want to know how many people I may be scaring with just this piece of text.
However, you want the appreciation of the people who don't get scared anyway! It's those people who can relate to who you are and support you in making others understand. Form that first stable crowd of like minded individuals. The rest will later follow.
If you really are special, you don't have trouble showing that. You don't have to try as long as you stop being shy. The appreciation will come your way, when you start acting unrestricted and think for yourself. Don't follow the crowd and just claim that you're different. Find your own way of being special and let that shine.
Photograph by Logan Cole